PATNI #review #theatre #play
1st day 1st show #AnshDarshakUtsav #anshdarshakutsav #ansh
#PATNI is a beautiful portrayal of a man losing his wife but unable to accept the reality and continuing to live with her memories, with her pseudo-existence post death. The beauty of this play is added when we get to see accompaniment by sitar vituoso Niladri Kumar live on stage, taking the story to the next level with his magical fingers on his Sitar and Zitaar. #Makarand and #Niladri compliment each other perfectly with Niladri’s “foreground score” (in this case as Niladri is accompanying onstage with his music, including reverbs/delays on his zitar and Jhalas on sitar) throughout Makarand’s monologue. Whatever I say of Niladri’s choice of melody lines and sound special effects are less. You can feel the pain, the pleasure, the raging emotions, the fear of losing a near and dear one- expressed with thoughtful sensitivity of his music. The play of lights also does a lot of story telling in PATNI.
#Patni is a solo act of #MakrandDeshpande where he deals with a man’s perspective of loss of his beloved. Loss of partner, widowing has many colors when it comes to women portraying the character. They can talk of loss of support, loss of caretaker, loss of protector, loss of love but what happens when a man loses his spouse. Mostly they deal with the situation straight-faced and move on with work and responsibilities.
But this solo act #PATNI is about a male protagonist who moves on with his life imagining what would it be like if his wife continued living with him after death. He is unable to accept the very idea of her non-existence. He imagines that she still lives with him posthumously and since now she’s a ghost she can probably fly around even take him around with her in flights of fantasy. He imagines she continues to exist as a ghost. He imagines he is still a provider, a caretaker, a protector, a lover, a husband in despair of his nagging wife. His inability to release her to go to the other world, his inability to explain to people that he is still so entwined with her memories, his obstinacy to hold on to her even in her misgivings as an imaginary ghost-wife, were so very man-thing. The whole concept was so uniquely intriguing, where #Makrand #deshpande with his usual madcap eccentricities shows depair about what happens when you lose someone you were taking care of, someone you would argue with for small reasons, someone who takes you for granted as a provider, someone who is like “as-wife-as-possible” and continues to irritate you, love you, indulge you, ignore you. He as the protagonist in Patni has invited the audience to introduce is wife and slowly let her go from his memories.
The play tries to touch upon the side of a men otherwise considered unemotional and unattached, with a lot of sensitivity, without being a tear jerker, conveying that loss is equally hurtful for both spouses. How each of them deal with it is a very personal thing.
Letting go a lover is easy to say but a very difficult emotion to deal with. There are memories we bind with a thread called commitment (with matrimony in our Indian tradition). PATNI tries to convey that when we let go someone, we let go a part of us too, we release the physicality of the relationship and enter into a spiritual bond which can be altered by none.
Remembering here the lyrics by #IrshadKamil from movie #Rockstar
“Ho mujh pe karam sarkar tera
Araj tujhe kar de mujhe
Mujhse hi riha”